So I was preparing to make pomegranate-orange juice from the fruits that I picked out yesterday from my front and back yard, and an interesting conversation came up between my two younger sisters and me. It first started with the topic of school.
Our conversation:
- Cheyenne: "I can't wait to go back to school."
- Me: "You like school huh? I'm too tired to go to school."
- Cheyenne: "I'm so bored here, I miss school."
- Me: "That's good that you miss school. Concentrate and eventually you'll get into HISP just like me. Just don't think about things like boys and having a boyfriend."
- Maggie: "Cievia, do you talk to boys at school?"
- Me: "Yeah, I talk to boys but not like a girlfriend."
- Maggie: "I don't like talking to boys."
- Me: "You can talk to them but not like how a girlfriend would talk to her boyfriend. Talk like regular friends."
At this part of our conversation, I started realizing how much things someone would go through while going to school; how much feelings people would experience. I just saw the things that my little sisters would eventually have to experience and those thoughts scared me.
Our continued conversation:
- Me: "Just study about History and learn from people's mistakes."
- Maggie: "History?"
- Cheyenne: "We haven't learned about history yet."
- Me: "Yeah, history. You guys haven't learned about history yet?"
- Cheyenne: "No, not yet. We are too young to learn it."
- Me: "Well when you guys learn it, study about the mistakes the people made."
- Cheyenne: "When you said history I thought you said 'his-story'."
- Me: "What do you mean?"
- Cheyenne: "You know? Like 'his-story'."
- Me: "Did you think that or did you think about the subject history first?"
- Cheyenne: "I thought about the subject."
- Me: "What about you Maggie? Where did you guys get this from?"
- Maggie: "I got it from my teacher. It was a knock-knock joke."
- Cheyenne: "I got it from my head."
This part made me realize how innocent a child's mind can be. I thought it was pretty interesting; I never thought about 'his-story'. It's interesting how my younger siblings would just come up with these things and they would bring it up at the most random time ever. Maggie can literally remember the weirdest things and Cheyenne can come up with the most innocent thing that sometimes when they bring it up, it just takes me by surprise. It's funny how my mind doesn't work like this. Is it because of what I've experienced has totally influenced the way how I think? Is it my brain? Am I aging too quickly? I don't know.
Then I thought about analyzing my two younger sisters' thoughts. Our conversation is becoming even more interesting--well, to me that is.
Me: "Did you guys know that back then, women did not have rights?"
Cheyenne & Maggie: "Yes!"
Maggie: "Men would do outside jobs and women would do jobs like cleaning the dishes."
Me: "Why do you think that?"
Maggie: "I don't know."
Me: "Do you think that people did that because they thought women can not do those outside jobs?"
Maggie: "Yeah."
Me: "How can you fix that?"
Maggie: "Well, when I have kids, I'll tell the boys to do the outside jobs and the girls to do the inside jobs. Then the next day they switch."
Me: "Do you think that too, Cheyenne?"
Cheyenne: "Yeah, so that it's fair."
Me: "Why do you think there hasn't been a girl president?"
Cheyenne: "I don't know. If a girl can be a queen and rule her kingdom, then a girl can be the president. I think that some boys still think girls only know how to do the dishes and house works."
Me: "But do you think that girls are capable of doing better things than cleaning the house and the dishes?"
Cheyenne: "Yes."
Me: "What do you guys want to be when you grow up?"
Maggie: "I want to be a teacher."
Cheyenne: "I want to be a veterinarian so that I can help animals."
Me: "Maggie, why do you want to be a teacher."
Maggie: "So then I can help kids learn math and learn how to read. So that they can do good."
Then this is where I stopped analyzing my sisters' thoughts. I have seen the thoughts of two young girls in the topic of men superiority. Although all humans are created equal, and the issue of men being more superior than women have been solved years ago, we can still see that there are still some things in the world that hints the idea of men being better or more powerful than women. If the issue have been already solved, how come Cheyenne thinks that there are some boys who thinks that girls only know how to do 'girl jobs'. Maggie mentions about boys and girls switching roles--having the boys do outside jobs one day and girls doing them the next day so that everything is equal. At that point, Cheyenne also agrees with Maggie. Both of them believes and values equality like the majority of other people in the world including me and the system that we have was set up to make sure that everyone does have that equality. Yet, do we really have that equality? Do women have the same advantage as men do? Am I being judged because I'm a girl? What about my sisters? Will they not be able to become what they want to pursue a career in because they are girls?
At a young age, everyone has been asked once the question: "What do you want to be when you grow up?"
I asked that question numerous of times just to see what people wanted to be and how different each kids' ideal job is.
However, today I had a deeper purpose of asking that question. My sisters don't know that college is worth a lot of money. My sisters don't know that they'll have to compete with others to get to their career. My sisters don't really know about the topic of men superiority and that their gender may have an affect with whichever path they choose. I wanted to see their answers to this question with their innocent minds without these obstacles that they have to think about later on in life. I wanted to see what they thought about the controversial topic of women being second to men. I wanted to see the innocence they still possessed while they are still young.
I'm sure that maybe five years from now their answers would be quite similar to these answers they've told me. But they would have already done numerous of research on the topics I've covered. They would know that college is worth a lot of money. They would know that they would have to compete with others to get their dream jobs. They would know the the topic of men superiority. Then their answers would be influenced by outside forces that aren't their own.